So most of you know that I am a cricket buff and I attend cricket matches regularly. So when I attend these matches I generally wear one of my Proteas T Shirts and Friday night was no different. This time I chose to wear my David Miller shirt and like any fan would, I took a photo in it and posted it when David Miller came out to Bat.
What happened next, after I posted it on Twitter, was something I didn’t expect. I didn’t expect someone, especially cricket fans who are enjoying the cricket at present, to make a comment saying “fat” and “fattest” and was quite shocked at the time. I have always been bigger built then most around me but I never was made fun off or hurt by someone, so this was a shock. If you think this is going to be a soppy story, then no it’s not because Im here to voice my disgust for body shamers.
You know, the weird aspect to this is that I started appreciating my body towards the end of 2018 and that made me more comfortable living in the skin that I have. What I am trying to say is that this comment possibly could have hurt me before then, and that was merely a month ago.
What really upsets me is that there are people that struggle with self image and may not be able to brush off negative comments made about them. It’s insensitive to not take into account the other person’s feelings when commenting on their post. The saying is, “if you have nothing good to say then don’t say it at all” is important especially if it’s not on your space. We have the right to freedom of speech and expression but make your thoughts known on your own platform/time-line, not on someone else’s space. Remember we may have the “right” to freedom of speech but we also have a responsibility to use it wisely.
We as people need to reshape our thinking and not let magazines tell us what and who we should look like. Yes, Anna Hathaway is gorgeous but so is Melissa Mccarthy and Rachel Wilson. They all look good on the big screen. And they all should be appreciated. So stop basing your ideals of a women one kinda women. Be alert and protect your mind from being brainwashed into thinking that a size zero is the perfect kind of women.
In this instance, the shirt that I was wearing was a cricket players, who is fit and in good shape because he is a cricket player. Now, am i supposed to be as good in shape as him? I respect the players for the dedication to training, I respect people who have fast metabolisms and burn off fat instantly, I respect people who take all these funny concoctions to say fit. But don’t you think respect work both ways. Don’t you think BIGGER girls also DESERVE RESPECT. Respect girls who yes, like good food, who are to tired to work out regularly and who have medical issues and take medication that makes them gain the few kilos. Respect them because you don’t know what their life entails so how can you judge.
To body shamers, 2019 is the year you should look for growth in the way you think. Because 2019 is the year this supposed “fat” girl won’t be tolerating your nonsense. This year if you want to act like a tart, just remember this fat girl loves tarts and will gladly eat you up.
This year I will be standing up for the thousands, or more like MILLIONS that are to afraid to voice their opinions. If you are big built, small built, shaped like a apple or pear, just remember YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. God made you unique, don’t die trying to a copy of someone you were not made to be.
Your fat kid (adulting is hard, I rather be a kid 😉)