Tag: strength of women

Big is beautiful: Body shaming is so last season!

So most of you know that I am a cricket buff and I attend cricket matches regularly. So when I attend these matches I generally wear one of my Proteas T Shirts and Friday night was no different. This time I chose to wear my David Miller shirt and like any fan would, I took a photo in it and posted it when David Miller came out to Bat.

What happened next, after I posted it on Twitter, was something I didn’t expect. I didn’t expect someone, especially cricket fans who are enjoying the cricket at present, to make a comment saying “fat” and “fattest” and was quite shocked at the time. I have always been bigger built then most around me but I never was made fun off or hurt by someone, so this was a shock. If you think this is going to be a soppy story, then no it’s not because Im here to voice my disgust for body shamers.

You know, the weird aspect to this is that I started appreciating my body towards the end of 2018 and that made me more comfortable living in the skin that I have. What I am trying to say is that this comment possibly could have hurt me before then, and that was merely a month ago.

What really upsets me is that there are people that struggle with self image and may not be able to brush off negative comments made about them. It’s insensitive to not take into account the other person’s feelings when commenting on their post. The saying is, “if you have nothing good to say then don’t say it at all” is important especially if it’s not on your space. We have the right to freedom of speech and expression but make your thoughts known on your own platform/time-line, not on someone else’s space. Remember we may have the “right” to freedom of speech but we also have a responsibility to use it wisely.

We as people need to reshape our thinking and not let magazines tell us what and who we should look like. Yes, Anna Hathaway is gorgeous but so is Melissa Mccarthy and Rachel Wilson. They all look good on the big screen. And they all should be appreciated. So stop basing your ideals of a women one kinda women. Be alert and protect your mind from being brainwashed into thinking that a size zero is the perfect kind of women.

In this instance, the shirt that I was wearing was a cricket players, who is fit and in good shape because he is a cricket player. Now, am i supposed to be as good in shape as him? I respect the players for the dedication to training, I respect people who have fast metabolisms and burn off fat instantly, I respect people who take all these funny concoctions to say fit. But don’t you think respect work both ways. Don’t you think BIGGER girls also DESERVE RESPECT. Respect girls who yes, like good food, who are to tired to work out regularly and who have medical issues and take medication that makes them gain the few kilos. Respect them because you don’t know what their life entails so how can you judge.

To body shamers, 2019 is the year you should look for growth in the way you think. Because 2019 is the year this supposed “fat” girl won’t be tolerating your nonsense. This year if you want to act like a tart, just remember this fat girl loves tarts and will gladly eat you up.

This year I will be standing up for the thousands, or more like MILLIONS that are to afraid to voice their opinions. If you are big built, small built, shaped like a apple or pear, just remember YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. God made you unique, don’t die trying to a copy of someone you were not made to be.

Your fat kid (adulting is hard, I rather be a kid πŸ˜‰)

Dhashnie Pillay

Strength of A Women: Through You, Life Begins!Β 

“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” Proverbs 31:25

A woman, she is fearfully and wonderfully made .. she bears the weight of the world on her shoulders .. she is created with a purpose from the very beginning .. she is how the world replenishes itself with life of children .. she is the image of strength .. she shapes minds of the future.. she is LOVED beyond her own understanding .. So just remember ladies, you are very Special to this world. 

So today in South Africa, we celebrate Women’s day. A day set out to acknowledge women for who they are and what they can achieve. It’s also a day that empowers women and a day that strives for ending abuse, creating equality for women in the workplace, and striving for better conditions to empower girls from when they young and in school. Basically, it’s a day to Honor Women and teach them that we are important, just as important as men in the world. This movement is not just specific to South Africa, it is also celebrated world wide every year on the 8th of March. However my message is to help motivate you,women, to strive and acknowledge your worth each and every morning you awake. 

It’s shocking, or maybe not, to realize that women have been attached to the stigma of inferiority. What’s worse is that women were captives to this concept for so long that women are victims of believing it to be true. Well I’m here to change your mind if you still have any inkling to believe you are worth less. This coming from a Indian woman, so this should be interesting.

So why do/did we think we as women are inferior? Is it based on physical strength differing between genders or just the inability to comprehend that value isn’t determined by how masculine men are compared to women. Well, let me just say that we all should wake up and smell the roses because we are not living in stone age times. It would be common then to think that men were superior because they were physically built to hunt and provide, but it doesn’t hold same weight now. Times have changed, women have developed and with tools and technology around, we as women too can achieve anything a man can. 

My fight, or should I say purpose, is not to fight and show women we are superior than men, NO, It is to make women, and to the men reading, realize that we are EQUAL and are capable of achieving the same goals in life. In today’s day and age, we need to realize that we, women, can achieve same jobs/salaries as men, and with perseverance and confidence in ourselves, we can change the worldly structure of businesses placing higher values on men. This is, however, a process because the world has been brainwashed for far to long. Therefore the value we place on ourselves now, will help us achieve better conditions  in our lives now but will only pave way to better lives of women in future. Hopefully that future isn’t to long away so we can see the fruit of it soon.

If any doubt remains, think of it in this way .. men are physically stronger than women by nature but women you overlook the fact that you are mentallystronger (don’t have as much testosterone in our bodies) which means we not as aggressive in nature. Through all the challenges we face, we still overcome them, easily sometimes and sometimes with alot of effort but we are OVERCOMERS. Disclaimer: we are however human by nature, therefore our capabilities differ. Hence women are sometimes physically stronger by comparing structure to men and men are also able to be mentally stronger, which boils down to how they were raised and how their mind was cultivated (Guess what though, that required a women’s touch as well). But this is a whole other topic on its on, so moving on. 

The next step is just for women to REALIZE that we are by far greater than what we make ourselves out to be. For far to long, we let culture of world and culture of community we grew up in influence and shape our minds. It is time we start exercising our freedom by growing ourselves. It is time to realize YOU can conquer the world, YOU can climb the highest mountains, YOU can jump into the deepest oceans, YOU can fly the biggest aircrafts, YOU  can be sit among men and be just influential in decision making, YOU can impact the world by just being you. 

We don’t need to look at the world for confirmation that we are capable. We may at times have to work a little harder to  achieve this but hardwork never hurt anyone. Hardwork builds character and character makes you who you are therefore don’t be afraid working hard. 

Remember ladies, and men, you are always loved … Love helps you grow as a person and I live with unconditional love because God is love and loves us conditional. So to you all, JUST BE YOU because YOU ARE WONDERFULLY AND FEARFULLY MADE BY OUR CREATOR! 

Happy women’s to all the South African Women reading this on the 9th of August. And if it’s not the 9th of August when you read this, happy women’s day to you to because women should celebrate WOMEN’S DAY EVERY SINGLE DAY.